The spouse who sent his cancer wife to say that he was leaving and had taken all their money was exposed to a horrific divorce act that only men were doing.
Marie went to social media to share her horror that her husband had come out on her after being diagnosed with a brain tumor.
As if this was not bad enough, he had also cleared their joint bank account, money that she claims to need her medical treatment.
Screen photo of a text exchange between a woman and her husband who drained her bank account after diagnosis of brain cancer Tiktok/Reddit
“My husband was 6 years old and disappeared, drained our mutual account and sent me this when I asked what the hell was happening,” the post said in Tiktok and Reddit.
“My condition is bad, I had numerous operations, treatments, etc. … But I have always been true, I still cooked it until it happened. He is quite convinced that I am dead in rights, I personally think I have a chance …”
Along with her post, she is a NMR scanning of Marie’s brain showing the tumor and the text her husband sent it, explaining her reasons for leaving.
“Listen, it was difficult, I can’t handle you watching you die,” the text begins.
“I feel alone, I feel trapped, I’m not sure where or what I’m going to do … I invest a lot during your treatment, so I restore what I put in addition to my future. I can still have one.”
He continued to apologize for the fact that his wife was dying and called for her to “be happy for me that I could live for both.”
MRI scanning a woman showing her brain tumor tiktok/reddit
Understandably, people are outraged.
But the terrible exchange is not tragically not a one-time case-it is a common occurrence for wives facing serious health battles.
Men more likely to leave a sick partner
New data shows that men are more likely to leave their wives after a cancer diagnosis than back.
In 2025, the study evaluated more than 25,000 heterosexual couples aged 50 and more in 27 European countries in an 18-year period and concluded that divorce was more likely when the wife was tender.
In contrast, if the husband had health problems, the couple is not more likely to split than if they are both healthy.
This was voiced in a more document, published in 2015, who saw the researchers track the marriage of 2701 and watch what happened when someone became ill.
According to new data, men are more likely to leave their wives after a cancer diagnosis than the reverse yakobchuk olena – stock.adobe.com
While only 6 percent of the cases ended with a divorce, they were all incited by men.
Another 2009 study found that the strongest predictor of separation or divorce for patients with brain cancer is whether the sick person is a woman or not.
Women celebrate the bad end of the deal – even in death
The same study shows that men are seven times more sick to leave their partner than the other way around if any of them has brain cancer according to GuardianS
Professor Alex Broome, Professor of Sociology and Director of the Sydney Healthy Societies Center, Faculty of Arts and Social Sciences at the University of Sydney, explained that the data shows a significant reflection on inequality in modern marriages.
“Studies are often shown than women carry the main weight of care responsibilities at both ends of life – the early years and the twilight. But also that the men in their lives can be poorly prepared to provide them with care and support when they need it – whether in the context of a serious illness or at the end of life,” he told news.com.au.
“I am sure many people at this point will say,” Not all men “or” not my partner. ” And this is true, men come in many forms and shapes. But the reality is that women make a disproportionate amount of informal care and receive less, on average, themselves, often at critical moments. “
Professor Alex Broome stressed that although “we can think we live in a fair society, we don’t do it,” with women – especially married – they still compensate for the bad end of the deal, even when they are sick.
Studies show that women often carry the main weight of care responsibilities, whether in the context of a serious illness or at the end of life africa studio – stock.adobe.com
“Increasing women’s involvement in the workforce has increased women’s incomes and assets, but it does not have to equalize the distribution of informal care responsibilities,” he said.
“For example, household research has found that men are now doing a little more homework than before, but women still do much more than men, despite the paid work. That is, patriarchal ideas for care and responsibility are still lurking against our society.
The “caring precipice”, as we can call it, may explain why some men are “jumping” when faced with a difficult scenario. Social norms that bind them to the social treaty of care are worse than for women. “
In the case of Marie, she felt particularly difficult, as she was left with her husband, even when he didn’t do great in life.
“We met in high school, supported it financially during his degree, I was there when his sister died,” she explained.
“Now I’m just sitting in our apartment, I’m not sure where to go. This money was there for future treatments, it was money that I helped to accumulate … to take everything. I just can’t.”
“Men leave when they no longer receive what they want”
Paul Brunson, a relationship advisor and a British television presenter, recently discussed the disturbing phenomenon in an episode of “Executive Director’s Diary” With Stephen Bartlet, describing him as “anxious” and “shocking.”
Relationship experts describe this model of behavior by men as “anxious” and “shocking” KIRSEN D/peopleimages.com – STOCK.ADOBE.COM
“What these men say is that they no longer receive their emotional or physical needs for intimacy and as a result they no longer receive this thing, they are out,” he explained.
“There is a disproportionate amount of the relationship that is placed on the physical side.”
The reaction to the situation of Marie and the shocking statistics around sick women are prevalent as many women express disgust but not shock.
“You will beat the cancer and flourish agai.
“I’m not surprised, there is no man in the comments showing support,” another added.
As one noted, “I’m just shocked that it’s no higher higher percentage of men.”