16 “Cringey” red flags that a woman is “choose me” according to other women

We recently asked women from the Buzzfeed community to share the red flags that show that another woman was “selected” and the answers were completely honest. If you didn’t know, “choose me” is a slang term used to describe a woman who attaches to men and seek validation of men at the expense of other women. This is said, here are some signs that signal that someone is “choose me”:

1“When someone constantly changes BFF or friend.

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–JESSICAC4D6AF2571

2.“When they openly state that the reason for all friends is that women are” too much drama. “

–Blackbird68

3“I’m sorry I’m not sorry, but Mag or conservative women who are anti-election and anti-feminine politicians. They always carry dumb things like:” What would happen if they were on their period? “Nowadays, there are also many politicians who are trying to take the rights to vote on women and even see women who support it.

-Stylishpear985

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4.“A funny new one I just found: women who join private groups on Facebook, designed explicitly to cheat on men who tell men that they are exposed. Breakers of the girls’ code is garbage.”

—Msslhenry

5.“Women who are called” sexually neutral “, and not because they have real dysphoria, but because they have a simple idea of ​​what it is like to be a woman. In principle, they fail to understand the others difficult. We are all complicated and have masculine and feminine characteristics.”

–Bubblyelephant984

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6.“When interrupted or directly ignore when another woman talks to pay attention or talk to a man in the group.”

-Supermug81

7.“When I talk to other women about shared interests and hobbies, they turn it into a competition to prove that they are” more investored. ” A Great Example Is When I Mention That I’m Excited That Baseball Season Is Starting Up Again, and Other Women Start Quizing Me on Which Teams I Follow and Stats, and Just Basical Trying Fan. I Care About My Minor-League Local Team and the Major-League Team I Grew Up with. I am not nessarily into Baseball History or Specific Players, But I Love Going To Games and Tossing A Ball with My Friends and Students. IT’s Bad Enough When Men Feel The Need To Quiz Me On, whether I’m a serious fan or I’m just saying I like something to like the boys.

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-Mel, 25 years old, Washington

8.“Any woman or girl who talks about women or girls in a collective negative.” Well, you know how the girls are, “” I’ve always been a girl to a man “or” I never encountered girls. “Stop.

–Cleverzombie993

9.“When they do not set clear boundaries and expectations with their significant other. The main thing I see is when a woman is overdoing the needs and graphics of her ground floor. You are also in this connection, bo.

-Erika, 30, New York

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-Erika, 30, New York

10.“When men are centered and seek validation from men. And if they often leave you at parties to get a person.”

-Nonymous

11.“Choose me,” I know, boast that they get attention from men and talk about random women around her, commenting on the body, her clothes, etc. She really loves sports, but she makes a huge deal from how “quirky” and “unique” she is like a woman who loves sports. “

-Jessethecowgirl

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-Jessethecowgirl

12.“Expressing views that are expressed by any person to whom they have their views – even if it is 180 of their previous opinions.”

-Nonymous

13.“When they hate women who like stereotypical” girl “things and are proud of how they don’t. Also, saying that liking” girlfriend “things makes the woman” anti -feminist “. For example, it doesn’t matter what you like, but you have to respect other people for what they do.

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-Nonymous

14.“Women who say you copy them when they do something.”

-Emersonbrown

15.The Red Flag “Choose Me” that annoys me most is when someone boasts an achievement or something, and “Choose Me” is in praise and points out that they have achieved the same thing. It’s so fragile! “

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16.Finally: “The presentation of misogynia with” like a woman … “or” I am a woman, but …. “it is always said in a stronger voice, so they can be sure that everyone hears. I am sorry, but your opinion against women’s rights is no more valid, just because you are a woman.

“Oh, and I just want to be clear: I’m not talking about internalized oppression. I’m talking about women who would agree with other women, but then suddenly they change and leave women in the presence of men who want to like them. Internalized misogya is a serious problem and people who have it are victims, complete stopping.”

If you are a woman, what do you think is a sign that shows that someone is “choose me”? Notify us in the comments or you can anonymously send your thoughts using this form!

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